 |
| Andi's In-Laws |
It really is the little things in a marriage that can make it work. sometimes the big things in a marriage falter , or get broken ,like communication .Do you ever just forget to talk to each other? I know we talk about our kids ,the chores that need attention around the house. The repairs on the car, or even the unhappy job you have. What about the talk that matters. The eye contact, not looking up from your iPod or computer screen.( I am VERY guilty). Letting your spouse know they have your undivided attention. That heart to heart talk , that only you two can share. Do you ever compliment your spouse? Tell them they look good, or better yet smell good. Tell them maybe their hair looks good, or in my case want to be on my really good side. Tell me I have lost a pound or two.. always a good starter for a good day!
Have you called your spouse to tell them that you missed them while they are at work? I know we text it.. Next time a hand written note would be great . We can keep those!
Call him at work ladies, let him know he is cared for missed and is very much a part of your family even though in body he isn't there. don't talk about the kids and problems. He has enough to deal with, he is at work. That is stress enough. Attract him to you ,by your TALK, entice him to want no other because you are his bride. His lover , his friend. Trust me ladies if you don't.. For every rat ya see theirs 50 ya don't and I'm not talking about rodents. Other ladies will try to steal your man.
My husband doesn't text, never has had the technology to do so. the other day out of the blue I get a text saying "I love you" granted I thought someone had the wrong number, but it was so sweet of him to think of me. He hacked my daughters phone to tell me that! What a sweetie!
Communication is key to any relationship. If your communication is broken, fix it! You may have to fix and repair it daily. A happy home is worth it. Let him know he makes you happy!!! Tell him!
* A little side note: One year on Valentines Day as a romantic gesture. I cut out hundreds of paper hearts made of construction paper. On each heart I wrote a reason why I loved him. Why I respected him, what I appreciated about him. He kept all those hearts. He has them tucked away in one of his drawers. Maybe the one with the holey underwear! I am not sure, but it is a treasure to my husband! Let your husband know what makes you happy, keep talking! If its broke ,fix it! Fix your line of communication. You can do it! I know you can.
Andi, you are so right. After my failed first attempt at marriage, when Mark and I decided to get married almost 2 yrs ago, this was/is a very important part of our marriage. There are times during the year that I feel that we are disconnecting and I tell him so. Mark will stop what he is doing and hold my hands so that we can talk. There are times when he on the spur of the moment shows me that he needs my undivided attention by planning a lunch/dinner alone. Communication is the key to any successful marriage.
ReplyDeleteThank you Nikki for posting. I am glad to see our readers enjoying and agreeing . DeAnna and I hope that some of what we have learned in our life already, will help others have less hard knocks in their marriage. Keep talking, keep praying, keep staying ! Most of all keep LOVING that man God gave you.
ReplyDeleteNikki,
ReplyDeleteIt is essential that we learn from our past mistakes. These do not take God by surprise and can be used for His glory and it shows His power as He creates beauty from our ashes. Thank you for sharing with us!